How capable am I of relationships? Take the test at the private practice of online psychologist Patric Pförtner.
Psychologist Patric Pförtner

Patric Pförtner

M.Sc. Psychologist, Doctoral Researcher

Test: How capable am I of relationships?

This psychological test shows you whether your attitudes and expectations toward your partner and your partnership help or harm your relationship. A healthy capacity for relationship is the foundation of fulfilling and long-term partnerships.

Features of a good capacity for relationships include:

  • the ability to communicate openly and honestly about feelings and needs,
  • a healthy balance of emotional closeness and distance,
  • willingness to compromise and constructive conflict resolution,
  • a stable sense of self-worth and the ability to self-reflect,
  • respect for the boundaries and needs of your partner.

Capacity for relationships is not a static trait — it can be actively developed and improved. This test helps you recognise your strengths and growth potential in relationships.

Originally written in German — read the original here: Beziehungsfähigkeit-Test.

Relationship Capacity Test: 15 Questions

All questions refer to the last 14 days. The answer options are scaled like a grading system — the first option counts as one point, the last as five. Choose one answer per question and click Evaluate Now at the end.

1. Do you believe that, in a loving relationship, arguments should never occur?

2. Do you think a partner who truly loves you would have to show affection constantly?

3. Do you expect your partner to change for your sake if they love you?

4. Do you feel a partner should know on their own what matters to you, without you having to mention it?

5. Do you feel that things lose their value if you have to ask your partner for them?

6. Do you believe a loving partner is always ready to do anything you ask?

7. Are you of the view that true love includes no relationship problems?

8. Do you think no work on the partnership is needed in a perfect relationship?

9. Do you believe your partner deliberately does things that hurt you when something displeases you?

10. Do you think disagreements are a sign that you don't fit together?

11. Do you expect your partner always to be understanding when you need them to be?

12. Do you believe a good relationship should involve doing as much as possible together?

13. Do you think a loving partner would never do anything that hurts you or that you dislike?

14. Do you expect sex in a loving relationship to always be fun?

15. Do you believe your partner should always be there for you whenever you need them?

This online screening is not a diagnostic tool. Only a trained medical professional — such as a doctor, psychiatrist or psychotherapist — can advise you on the next steps.

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"Most arguments aren't the argument you think you're having."
"Trust doesn't grow through words. It grows through repetition."
"A strong relationship isn't one without conflict — it's one where you find your way back."
Psychologist Patric Pförtner is a registered full member of the BDP

Quality seal for psychological counselling awarded by the Professional Association of German Psychologists (BDP).

 Registered full member of the BDP

Registered full member of the Professional Association of German Psychologists (BDP).

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For my work, the BDP has awarded me the "Counselling by Psychologists" quality mark.