Is my relationship healthy? Take the test at the private practice of online psychologist Patric Pförtner.
Psychologist Patric Pförtner

Patric Pförtner

M.Sc. Psychologist, Doctoral Researcher

Test: Relationship Quality and Partnership Satisfaction

Do you ask yourself: "Do I really feel understood in my relationship?", "Can we resolve conflicts constructively?", "Is my relationship stable?" or "Is the balance between closeness and autonomy right?" These questions can offer important clues about the quality of your relationship.

Hallmarks of a healthy relationship include:

  • Open and respectful communication, even in disagreement,
  • Mutual trust and emotional safety,
  • A balanced rhythm between closeness and personal space,
  • Growing together while developing individually.

This test lets you reflect on various aspects of your partnership and identify possible areas for growth.

Originally written in German — read the original here: Partnerschaftstest.

Partnership Test: 15 Questions

All questions refer to the last 14 days. The answer options are scaled like a grading system — the first option counts as one point, the last as five. Choose one answer per question and click Evaluate Now at the end.

1. Do you feel emotionally supported by your partner in your relationship?

2. Can you speak openly and honestly with your partner about everything?

3. Does your partner respect your opinions and decisions, even when they disagree?

4. Do you feel that your partner accepts you as you are?

5. Do you and your partner share common goals and values?

6. Do you enjoy spending time together without feeling obliged to?

7. Can you resolve conflicts or disagreements respectfully?

8. Do you support each other through everyday challenges?

9. Do you feel safe and secure in the relationship?

10. Does your partner respect your personal freedoms and hobbies?

11. Do you feel that communication in your relationship works well?

12. Do you often laugh together and enjoy shared moments?

13. Do you feel valued and loved in the relationship?

14. Do you trust your partner and their faithfulness?

15. Do you experience your relationship as balanced, without one of you constantly having to put in more effort?

This online screening is not a diagnostic tool. Only a trained medical professional — such as a doctor, psychiatrist or psychotherapist — can advise you on the next steps.

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"Most arguments aren't the argument you think you're having."
"Trust doesn't grow through words. It grows through repetition."
"A strong relationship isn't one without conflict — it's one where you find your way back."
Psychologist Patric Pförtner is a registered full member of the BDP

Quality seal for psychological counselling awarded by the Professional Association of German Psychologists (BDP).

 Registered full member of the BDP

Registered full member of the Professional Association of German Psychologists (BDP).

 Online psychological counselling quality seal

For my work, the BDP has awarded me the "Counselling by Psychologists" quality mark.